Tuesday, June 24, 2008
okay... today we gonna talk a little lesson about communication.
afterall we use communication everyday isnt it?
first of all in bridging a good communication, there is this very 1st rule, and that stems the first step of good communication...
empathy.
how many times have you shared your woes with your friends but you just felt that he or she dont seem to feel for you and you just shut off after which?
common?
there, that's where empathy comes into play..
in NLP terms, Richard Brandler termed this pacing.
there are some communication-killers that destroy communication that we cant, or i say, shouldn't commit.
you had some bad moments
and you shared with your good friend earnestly...
and your friend responded promptly.
"i don't understand why you are so angry!"
communication, gone. you shd be feeling quite turned off hearing this by now.
and you prolly wouldnt want to share anything else.
why? the reason is simple, clear, but yet hard to detect for many.
your friend may not mean to shoot you off, but just simply dun understand how u feel. yet he/she just did a communication killer.
after coaching for so long, i understand how empathy is so important to gaining trust and in communicating.
let me just share with you the key to making people feeling comfortable talking to you.
now, whenever someone shares his or her experience with me, i never evaluate the situation first. But instead, i pace his/her emotions first before leading him or her into analysing the situation. And that's how it always worked!
small magic. but it works.
*wink.
people will feel comfortable and enjoy talking to you, isnt that great?
now, master this trick and you will have the power of better communication and improving relationships with the people around you..
cheers.
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." - Maya Angelou
you did learn about something more today, didn't you?
My mind's unweaving/ 1:13 AM
